The Growing Family: The Hutchinson Family
● By Hood Magazine
Nicki Hutchinson grew up in Grand Forks, ND as an only child who was very close to her parents. Her father passed away in 2006 and two years later, her husband, John was offered a job in Sioux Falls. They made the difficult decision to leave the state her mother called home to start a new life in South Dakota.
“I was really hesitant about moving because my dad had passed away,” said Nicki. “And I’m my mom’s only child.”
Nicki and her mother didn’t live apart for long. A few years later, Nicki and John welcomed their first child, Xavier, in 2012. Nicki’s mother moved to Sioux Falls to be closer to her daughter’s family.
“She got her own townhome here in Sioux Falls,” said Nicki. “We had our own house and our
daughter Xyla was born. My mom took care of the kids at our house. Some days she would come early in the morning, or be there really late.”
It was then, at the suggestion of her mother, they decided it might be helpful to live together.
“I laughed at first and thought she was crazy,” said Nicki. “I didn’t think John would want to move in with his mother in law.”
Turns out, the arrangement is working quite well. They each sold their homes and bought a larger house together.
“Financially, we split all the costs and we actually save money. It just makes sense to live together. We cook at home more, we plan meals,” said Nicki. “My mom gets to spend a lot of time with the kids, but she also has her own living space to go to when she wants.”
While the kids have had to learn boundaries of when it’s ok
to visit grandma and when she needs her quiet time, overall, it’s been a smooth
“My mom and I have been close all my life and even after my dad passed away, so it’s nice to have her here,” said Nicki. “It’s also a great opportunity for family bonding and more social development in the kids too.”
For families that are jugging busy schedules with work and raising kids, Nicki says living with her mom has been one of the best decisions she’s ever made.“They’re getting a few adults that are raising them and teaching them different things, said Nicki. “The generational differences too. Skills that I might not have, my mom has. It’s worth it!”