The “Me” in Mommy
● By Hood Magazine
Today mothers are busier than ever trying to balance work, family, household chores and more. Self care often falls to the bottom of the to do list – if it even makes it on there in the first place! There is an art to balancing all the roles that moms play and effectively carving out time to put the “Me” in mommy. Lacey Seefeldt, Corporate Health Services Coordinator at Avera McKennan states that “including some “Me Time” can bring significant value to your life.”
That is easier said than done, for most women. Marla Cilley, the founder of the online community FlyLady, reminds her readers that you need to put on your oxygen mask first. “If you aren’t able to breathe”, she states, “How can you help anyone else?” She equates carving out time for yourself as putting on that oxygen mask and enabling yourself to care and be your best for others.
Seefeldt agrees, “I would suggest that mothers start with a deeper look into core values to help them establish “Me Time.” She works as a life coach, helping clients maintain balance in their lives and work towards meeting their goals. “As a health coach we commonly find that Moms are guided by their values and want to stay true to them. For example, maybe one of your core values is to live a healthful life. Think about the things you do every day to live this value. Maybe your ‘Me Time’ includes taking 15 minutes a day to go for a walk or read a book or even take a nap. All of these can help reduce your stress level, increase your energy and make you feel rejuvenated.”
Experts suggest making a list of 10-15 things that you enjoy on a regular basis and keep that list where you can easily refer to it. Lynn Fjellanger, a physical therapist and a mom to HS sophomore twins remembers what she enjoyed before her twins were born. “I try to make time for these activities every day. It may only be a few minutes but it helps me to remember Me!” Seefeldt agrees: “The most important thing to remember is that ‘Me Time’ can be big or small! If you feel like there is no way possible to get more then 5 minutes in a day for you, use it! Maybe the next day it will be 10 minutes. Soon you will experience the joy of taking time for yourself and want to reap those benefits more often.”
Cilley often reminds her readers, “If mama ain’t happy, no one is happy”. She encourages women to somehow find pamper “Me Time” every day to “fill your cup”. She even sends out email reminders to subscribers to take that time for themselves, and to make that time sacred. Cilley also encourages routines to make the rest of the day go smoother and to allow for that “Me Time” without guilt.