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Finding Time to Reconnect when Life Gets Busy

01/25/2017 09:30AM ● By Hood Magazine
By Relationship University, Volunteers of America, Dakotas



With all the hustle and bustle of being parents we can often forget we are still a couple! Who has time to go on a date? Valentine’s Day…what is that?


Couples don't always get to do what their single counterparts can take for granted - date. When children are involved, making time as a couple can be tough. Couples should not forget the single most important factor in having happy children is to be happy in your relationship with your spouse. If you have a happy relationship, you will have a happier family life. This is why it is important to have time together as a couple. Your child might not like you to leave him or her. They may throw a fit when you walk out the door, but remember, this only lasts for a short time. You will be better parents if you have time alone, and they will be happier kids!


Below are some ideas for you to spend some time alone with your significant other.

1.  Plan Your Date: Scheduling time together is a great way to stay committed to having alone time. It also gives you something to look forward to. Plan who will watch the kids and where you will go. Be spontaneous, but agree on alone time consistently that works for both your schedules.

2.  Take Time for Little Things: If going out is not in your budget, or you cannot find a babysitter, don’t forget there are little things you can do to still get quality time together. After the kids are in bed: watch a movie together, have a candle-lit dinner at home, or simply take time to talk. This can help couples grow their relationship.

3.  Forget the Chores: The laundry and “to do” list will always be there. Often couples feel the need to cross items off this list when the kids are not around (thinking more can get accomplished). While this can be true, it’s okay to forget the list once and awhile so you can have quality alone time with your significant other when the kids are not there.

4.  Relax: When you have found the alone time together, remember to relax. Often couples find themselves talking about daily stressors while alone. Try to avoid this and remember why you fell in love in the beginning. 


It’s easy to forget you are more than simply parents. You are also a couple! Being in a relationship takes work. Sometimes finding the time to work on your relationship may be hard, but time alone with your partner is not only good for you, but good for your children. Remember, the best gift you can give to your children is happy parents!