“Your Turn!” Who Should Get Up with the Baby?
06/27/2016 11:00AM ● Published by Hood Magazine
How do you determine who gets up in the middle of the night with the baby?
With my first child, getting up in the middle of the night was a team effort between my husband Amos and me. My daughter was bottle fed from the start, so when she would wake, my husband would change her diaper and I would head to the kitchen to warm a bottle. We took turns staying up to feed and put her back to bed.
Now a nursing mother to my second child, I am usually the one that gets up with baby in the middle of the night. However, Amos is not off the hook. He takes on the task of putting our now-6-year-old daughter to bed and getting as many things prepped and ready for the morning as he can. On those rough nights when baby is up all night, we tend to alternate shifts of an hour or two.
What is the schedule that your family uses when it comes to both you and Amos working, having to get Ezzie to school, caring for Westley, etc.?
We keep a dry erase weekly planner on our refrigerator and every weekend we go through the school lunch menu with our daughter and note on the board what days she would like a cold lunch (CL) or hot lunch (HL). She also has to choose what she would like for breakfast every school day. (This was to avoid the constant battle of morning indecision.)
We also use the planner to remind each other of any important events coming up in the week (i.e. soccer games, work meetings) and to designate which parent will be cooking that evening. It’s nice to share the dinner duties. Not only do you get more variety in what is made, but no one gets burned out on making menu decisions. The parent not cooking is responsible for bath time.
Any advice you have for other parents?
Talk with your partner to find out what works best for you and your family. Remember that there is no such thing as an even division of duties, but there is such a thing as give and take. Also, don’t forget to thank your partner or show appreciation for all they do, and they will do the same for you.