Top 6 Things Parents are Doing Right Without Even Knowing It
● By Hood Magazine
By Kristine Weires, LCSW-PIP, Clinical Social Worker
1. Loving unconditionally. Let’s face it, we don’t like our kids sometimes – like when they are screaming at us because they want a popsicle at 9:30 in the morning and we won’t give them one (not that this ‘Hood contributor knows this from experience or anything). But, we love them regardless of the behavior. And that’s how it should be. Our love shouldn’t be based on attitude or behavior. It should always exist.
2. Role modeling. Most people role model tolerance and kindness to their children. If you don’t, see a different article on top 10 things parents don’t do but should. There is most likely one out there.
3. Sacrificing. All of us have sacrificed something we wanted or needed for the sake of our children. Whether it’s new shoes for them or a new phone for you or a gallon of milk instead of a pack of pop, for most of us, our kids’ needs come first. Again, it’s how it should be, and again, if you don’t, find that other article I mentioned in #2.
4. Work ethic. Yes, many children think money grows on trees in our backyards, but eventually they learn how to earn it by watching us. Just understand they also learn how to feel about it by your actions. Leaving for work moaning and groaning doesn’t set a good precedent for a child. We want them to enjoy what they do as adults, even if we don’t.
5. Having fun. Laughing until you either cry or pee your pants a little is healthy for everyone regardless of age. Revel and enjoy the good times. Run through the sprinkler with the kids, have tickle wars, make funny faces, etc. Make memories of laughter.
6. Delayed gratification. We can’t and shouldn’t “rescue” our children from disappointment. A broken toy or flat bike tire doesn’t require an immediate trip to Wal-Mart to solve the problem, regardless of the sure end of the world if they can’t ride their bike. Teach your children to earn what they want and the feeling of satisfaction when they get it.
You can probably sense a theme here: kids learn most by example. Pay attention to what your actions are teaching your child.